I read this great Blog post from Strong Athlete, and I wanted to share it with you because we are ALL guilty of letting our egos get the better of us as some point or another.
Even my 15yr old son, even though I don’t believe him to be narcissistic, he can be very confident in himself and my goal is to keep teaching him to not let his confident self turn into self-centered young man that no one wants to be around.
So I am going to let coach KP from Strong Athlete take over from here….
Happy Friday! I just finished reading and re-reading an amazing new book by author and philosopher Ryan Holiday called Ego Is The Enemy. Filled with countless life lessons drawn from both ancient history and modern times, Ego Is The Enemy teaches us that our greatest enemy and impediment to success is ourselves.
If we want to achieve success on our terms and enjoy a fulfilling, happy life, we need to learn to control the egomaniacal child within us and focus on a purpose bigger than us.
In today’s post, I’d like to share with you 21 powerful quotes about ego from Ryan Holiday’s new masterpiece. Add this book to your collection – this one could be a game changer for you.
“One must ask: if your belief in yourself is not dependent on actual achievement, then what is it dependent on? The answer, too often when we are just setting out, is nothing. Ego.”
“Arrogance and self-absorption inhibit growth. So does fantasy and vision.”
“We will learn that though we think big, we must act and live small in order to accomplish what we seek.”
“Let the others slap each other on the back while you’re back in the lab or the gym or pounding the pavement. Plug that hole – that one, right in the middle of your face – that can drain you of your vital life force. Watch what happens. Watch how much better you get.”
“The art of taking feedback is a crucial skill in life, particularly harsh and critical feedback. We not only need to take this harsh feedback, but actively solicit it, labour to seek out the negative precisely when our friends and family and brain are telling us we’re doing great.”
“When you are just starting out, we can be sure of a few fundamental realities: 1) You are not nearly as good or as important as you think you are; 2) You have an attitude that needs to be readjusted; 3) Most of what you think you know or most of what you learned in books or in school is out of date or wrong.”
“Pride blunts the very instrument we need to own in order to succeed: our mind. Our ability to learn, to adapt, to be flexible, to build relationships, all of this is dulled by pride.”
“Success is intoxicating, yet to sustain it requires sobriety. We can’t keep learning if we think we already know everything.”
“No matter what you’ve done up until this point, you better still be a student. If you’re not still learning, you’re already dying.”
“Too often, convinced of our own intelligence, we stay in a comfort zone that ensures we never feel stupid (and are never challenged to learn or reconsider what we know).”
“It’s time to sit down and think about what’s truly important to you and then take steps to forsake the rest. Without this, success will not be pleasurable, or nearly as complete as it could be. Or worse, it won’t last.”
“Control says it all must be done my way – even little things, even inconsequential things. It can become paralyzing perfectionism, or a million pointless battles fought merely for the sake of exerting its say.”
“By removing the ego – even temporarily – we can access what’s left standing in relief. By widening our perspective, more comes into view.”
“If success is ego intoxication, then failure can be a devastating ego blow – turning slips into falls and little troubles into great unravelings.”
“In life, there will be times when we do everything right, perhaps even perfectly. Yet the results will somehow be negative: failure, disrespect, jealousy, or even a resounding yawn from the world.”
“Change begins by hearing the criticism and the words of the people around you. Even if those words are mean spirited, angry or hurtful. It means weighing them, discarding the ones that don’t matter, and reflecting on the ones you do.”
“At any given time in the circle of life, we may be aspiring, succeeding or failing – though right now we’re failing. With wisdom, we understand that these positions are transitory, not statements about your value as a human being.”
“You know what is a better response to an attack or a slight or something you don’t like? Love. That’s right, love.”
“Whatever is next for us, we can be sure of one thing we’ll want to avoid. Ego. It makes all the steps hard, but failure is the one it will make permanent.”
“In failure or adversity, it’s so easy to hate. Hate defers blame. It makes someone else responsible. It’s a distraction too; we don’t do much else when we’re busy getting revenge or investigating the wrongs that have supposedly been done to us.”
“Your potential, the absolute best you’re capable of – that’s the metric to measure yourself against. Your standards are. Winning is not enough. People can get lucky and win. People can be assholes and win. Anyone can win. But not everyone is the best possible version of themselves.”
Coach PKTeam Strong Athlete