She was training in the hurdles and she only does things one-way: all out. Over the last year she never had a fall. Not even a stumble. But on this day she didn’t just have a little trip-up, She did a full-on face plant after clipping the first hurdle during a speed drill.
When it happened, she skid across the track on her stomach, rolled and got to her feet quickly. She looked up and tried to pull off a kind of embarrassed smile, but realized it was more than her pride that got hurt. Her hands and knees were scratched up. Her stomach got the worst of it and was bleeding. She had tears in her eyes and knew she was at an important crossroads on the path to learning and success. Only she could decide which way to go: either practice was over or she would shake it off and move on.
Would she hold back? Would she fail to jump again? She decided to step back to the line for another attempt. She sped out of the starting blocks and over 4 hurdles. She simply got up and “moved on.”
The hurdles are a great metaphor for life: there will be a series of obstacles in front of you as you try to get to your goal. Each one will require specific practice and skill to overcome. Sometimes you will stumble. Other times you will fall. And in those errors and catastrophes, you will learn how to do things right. You will have some success and then life will plant you right on your face. How you get up and respond each time it does will show the world what you’re made of.
Mistakes are going to happen. You are going to make some sooner or later. How do you respond when you have a big blunder? Do you shake it off and move on or do you give up and avoid giving the endeavor another try? To make sure you get past your next setback, here are 5 tips to help you get up from your next stumble:
5 Ways To Get Over Your Next “Mistake Hurdle”
1. Know “Mistake History” Will Repeat Itself
When it comes to learning anything worthwhile, mistakes are part of the game. The fact mistakes are going to happen may not excite you, but you are more prepared than you might think. In fact, you have a strong history of overcoming mistakes! Whether it was learning to walk, talk, count, write or ride a bike, you surely overcame initial setbacks again and again until you got it right. Just like you were able to learn those skills, there are others ahead you can and will learn too. You simply have to use those same skills to weather the mistake storm just like you have throughout your past.
2. Skip The Blame Game And Take “Mistake Responsibility”
Now that you have been reminded of your capacity to overcome mistakes, the next step in conquering errors is to admit you made one. Although it may be easier to blame traffic, your parents, or the economy for your next mistake, pointing your finger at yourself will be the faster way to eventually move ahead. Accepting responsibility with a simple, “my bad” or “it’s my fault” will not only disarm others, but also give you the power of “mistake ownership.” Once you own it, then you leap to the next stage of mistake mastery where it is up to you to do something about it.
3. Be A Student Of The ”Mistake Game”
Each obstacle is your opportunity to learn something new. If you learn the lesson each mistake is trying to teach you, you will put yourself in the best position not to make the same mistake again. You get the honor to decide how to respond to any mistake you make. If you can pause and say, “what is this error or setback trying to teach me?” you will have seized the opportunity to grow your skill or knowledge. So, the next time you make a mistake, ask yourself what you can do be sure not to repeat the experience. Once you can do this regularly, you will start to see making mistakes as part of a game. And as you will see, games (even about mistakes) can be fun.
4. Turn That “Mistake Frown” Upside Down
You should like it when mistakes happen. Instead of a negative, look for the positive in a tough spot. Do you get excited or have fun when you make mistakes? You should! They are the lessons you need to happen in order to get things right. The next time you make one, be happy and see how much faster bathing your psyche in a positive environment moves you toward your goal.
5. Get Back On The “Mistake Track”
When you make a mistake, you might hear the advice to just, “Let it go.” Although this is easier said than done, the fast track on mistake release is to remember the most important person to forgive for a mistake is your self. Don’t beat yourself up over an error and definitely don’t carry it around in your head rent-free. Admit it happened, that you forgive yourself and it is time to move on. You are human just like everyone else. Get back on track and keep going. This is the way to get some “wins” and build your confidence back up.